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Last time we talked about Assertiveness.

Based upon some who struggled with that definition, I thought our topic time would be its contrast – Aggression

The following was an interesting comparison of gender differences regarding aggression (from Men, Women, and Aggression,  by Anne Campbell):

If, in men’s accounts of aggression, we are told what it is like to take control, in women’s accounts we hear about what is means to lose control.  For women, the threat comes from within; for men, it comes from others.  For women, the aim is a cataclysmic release of accumulated tension; for men, the reward is power over another person, a power that can be used to boost self-esteem or to gain social of material benefits.  For women, the interpersonal message is a cry for help born out of desperation; for men, it is an announcement of superiority stemming from a challenge to that position.  For women, the fear of aggression is a fear of breaking relationships; for men, it is the fear of failure, of fighting and losing, or of not being man enough to fight at all.

  • Do we agree with Ms. Campbell’s statements above?
  • Is this true for you personally?
  • What does aggressive behavior represent for you?
  • What is your personal experience with aggression?
  • Do you have a challenge in being aggressive (when necessary) or one in being aggressive at inopportune times?
  • How was aggression modeled to you as a child?
  • What role, if any, does it play in your life as an adult?
  • How does your relationship with aggression affect your sense of manhood?

As always, looking forward to meeting.

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