Posts Tagged ‘joy’
We will be meeting Monday 3/28/11 from 7:30-9:30pm.
Our topic will be fear.
Fear is a pervasive part of the human condition, but its expression can take on a myriad of different forms. We can experience acute fear, in the moment, in response to a physical situation we are confronted with; accidents/disasters, extreme places (vast expanses, steep cliffs, confined tunnels). This is perhaps the most useful and natural encounter with fear. Our bodies shift into a flight-or-fight response and operate in a subconscious way to get us through it.
But as modern humans we are confronted with many other kinds of fear which is less rational, less useful and more difficult to deal with. As our consciousness evolved so did our fears. As we moved from total-now consciousness into consciousness outside of the present, we could begin to fear things not immediately in front of us. We developed the ability to feel attachment to something and fear changes in the future. We are faced with a deeply uncertain world today, full of unrest, looming crisis and seemingly unrelenting natural and man-made catastrophes.
Media sources push some kinds of fear on the evening news, while not addressing things we perhaps should be fearful of. Emotional fear, outside of the moment can be like a cancer. It can slowly eat away at our ability of our mind to rest in peace and happiness. We may live in a fantasy world projecting our fears outside so that our perceived world becomes a scary fear filled landscape.
- What kinds of fears do you struggle with?
- What fears do you have that you think are really legitimate?
- What fears are unexamined, old patterns that maybe once served but that should really be thrown out to free up inner space for peace, enthusiasm and joy?
- If you didn’t hold on your fears as legitimate, what would happen?
- Where did you learn to fear these things?
I look forward to meeting with you!
We will be meeting on Monday, October 18th, from 7:30pm-9:30pm.
Our theme will be balance.
What does it mean to bring our lives into balance? When we get out of balance how do we recognize it, and do something about it? Modern life is full of strong forces that can pull us off our path, or away from our goals. Externally we are forced to juggle multiple roles; worker, partner, son, provider, perhaps father, boss or husband. Internally we struggle to mediate urges, needs, desires, fears, responsibility, freedom, sadness, guilt, joy, solitude and darkness. As participants in society we are bombarded with advertising, pacified by entertainment, bound by law, pressured by peers, and depended on by friends. With all of these pressing in and pulling on us it can difficult just figure out what balance is, let alone achieve it.
It is easy to get spun out of balance, even by the things we enjoy. We can find ourselves staying late at work finishing a project that has captured our imagination, or partying more than we should, or playing video games, or going to bed in the wee hours of the morning after surfing the internet.
- What is your relationship to balance? Where do you have it? Where is it missing?
- Who helps you maintain balance, who pulls you out of it?
- Where are you struggling to find the right balance?
- If you have achieved some measure of balance, what have you learned through this? What helped you get there?
- Where do you feel balance isn’t the right answer, where you find the extreme more useful/productive/enjoyable?
I look forward to meeting with you