In our last meeting, I tossed out the following quote in response to one man’s statements. It seemed to immediately capture everyone’s attention, so here it is again:
Where a man’s wound is, that is where his genius will be.
Mircea Eliade (1907-1986)
All of us carry our own unique wounding, and how we respond to it literally controls our lives.
I am not a mechanism, an assembly of various sections.
And it is not because the mechanism is working wrongly that I am ill.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul, to the deep emotional self,
and the wounds to the soul take a long, long time,
only time can help
and patience, and a certain difficult repentance
long, difficult repentance, realization of life’s mistake,
and the freeing oneself
from the endless repetition of the mistake
which mankind at large has chosen to sanctify.
As men, most often this wound comes from our fathers.
Every boy, in his journey to become a man, takes an arrow to the center of his heart, in the place of his strength. Because the wound is rarely discussed and even more rarely healed, every man carries a wound. And the wound is nearly always given by his father.
John Eldredge, Wild at Heart
Or we may shoulder the burden of our parent’s wounding.
Greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parent. So each man must examine, without the motive to judge, where his father’s wounds were passed on to him. Either he finds himself repeating his father’s patterns or living in reaction to them – in both cases a prisoner.
James Hollis, Under Saturn’s Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men
Addressing our wounding in paramount to our own person growth.
If you want to change the way you are with your sons, and your daughters, then my experience is you need to feel how you were hurt, and how you were wounded.
Marvin Allen, Wild Man Weekend documentary
In this meeting we will speak to each other about our personal wounding – what we know about it, how we have (or haven’t) dealt with it. How our current status with our wounding affects our lives today and the lives of those we love.
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